The importance and art of appreciation!
Without it you will ruin your chances!
To be honest I could have placed this post on any of my many blogs, but in this realm it is the most important and ironically also the one that has the most individuals who have lost the art of appreciation.
I say ironic, because most Fetishists, BDSM type submissives and even clients have nowhere near the problem with being appreciative and showing their appreciation as those who claim to have a financial fetish interest. Financial Domination or Fetish being the one arena where tributing financially or via material gifts is a major part of the whole and the core arousal for both sides (the one who is on the bottom and gives, as well as the one on the Top who receives), has the least appreciative individuals in it. Sad really, because that means you are ruining your chances from the very start.
I have said it at least a million times that most of My highest contributing to My financial welfare and happiness overall boys and sissies are not in fact financial subs, cashpets or paypigs.
They do not gain sexual arousal or humiliation turn on from tributing and spoiling Me, but do so because it is simply part of their service to Me and a way of assuring that I am well provided for by them as submissives and slaves would wish to do.
They do it purely for ME because that is what I desire and that is what allows Me to be a little less stressed out and gives Me the opportunity to enjoy My traveling rather then being forced to work all the time. Proper show of love and appreciation for Me as their Goddess.
Let’s understand the ART of appreciation however and these days it really is an Artform that has gone to the wayside a lot, but is the deciding factor in your success of ever being claimed by a Lady of Power with higher standards. In many cases it is even often times the only way you have to even get noticed, since let’s remember we are online and there are billions of people just shades on the screen of our consciousness.
Appreciation shows that you are not just taking a person you respect, adore, worship, follow, or otherwise feel drawn to, learn from or wish to have interaction with or attention from, for granted.
Now in the financial fetish there are boys who of course get off on the idea of being used financially while being taken utterly for granted, but those are in actually a small handful in the big scheme of things. Oh sure we see hundreds of them proclaiming that is what they want, but when push comes to shove only very few actually will really enjoy it or can even follow through with their fantasy.
The reality is that no matter what you call yourself or identify as in any area of fetish or even just real life, nobody enjoys the feeling of being taken for granted. Depending on the actual situation it can lead to feelings of resentment, getting tired of providing anything that another person may enjoy, or even growing sick of putting any further effort in. Basically when someone is being constantly taken for granted for what they do, it is a death sentence for any further interaction with those who have done so.
Showing appreciation is a strong positive motivator for the one whom you have shown the appreciation to to continue to give in some way and to continue to put in effort to move the connection forward or even start it.
As a Lady I will withdraw My attention and effort from those who do not show Me any type of appreciation after a while. I will move on to someone who does or to a place where I am appreciated. Leaving the ungrateful ingrates behind. This is a very natural behavior of someone who actually knows and understands their worth.
There are many forms of showing appreciation that don’t even necessarily cost you a lot of money either if any at all.
It actually begins with the utilization of basic manners.
If someone gives you something or allows you access to something that is of value in some way (be that a Photo, an article that made you think or taught you something, an acknowledgement of your existence that you haven’t even tributed for as a boy yet, an Audio that allows you to hear Her voice, or any number of other things) the least you can do it “thank” that person. Acknowledge that you realize that She didn’t have to take the time to give you something that you were in no way entitled to, but she did out of the goodness of heart. A simple “Thank you Goddess” for (whatever it was) is a FREE show of appreciation and acknowledgement that you have appreciated HER time and effort.
For US Ladies it is not out of bounds to thank a boy for a tribute he has made to you, or any other valuable to US service he has provided. Key here is VALUABLE TO US (the individual Lady). No matter how he sees himself in the end he still wants to know that he has been a good boy and that you were pleased by him. That’s common sense.
Another way of showing your appreciation that will not cost you any money is to help her expand her reach. If you think she is someone to be respected, admired and worthy of service then why would you not feel led to tell others about Her? You can do so via retweeting, posting links to Her posts or placing them in fetish correct forums or any other place that might help her gain followers who might be useful to Her success. Create a creative tribute to Her that includes a way for other to contact Her or read Her content. Be tasteful about it and remember SHE is a Goddess so show some class about it. Contribute it where others might see it.
Leave a note on her posts and tell Her that way what you appreciate about Her and adore about Her the most. Don’t be afraid to own your respect and adoration for Her.
If you can afford it then show your thanks by either sending her a financial gift via one the options she uses or purchase a gift for Her from Her wishlist. It doesn’t have to be huge, even something small with a note of Thank you for all you do, will be sure to make Her smile.
Don’t ignore when She asks for help with something, be it getting a new venue out, a contribution financially to something that is important to Her even if it doesn’t arouse you or benefit you. Those are the things She’ll remember the most.
Most of all have HER back when She is not feeling at Her best. Remember WE are human being too and nothing hurts more then when you show yourself as a fair weather friend or follower. Standing by Her and continuing to show Her that you appreciate Her for who She is and what She does is very important.
Let me say it again. If you are someone who never shows appreciation in a way that is valuable to Her in some way, you will find that you sooner or later will no longer be able to reach for what She has to offer.
For example on My Blogs I have been known to put MY foot down and lock articles up that you had to pay to fully read, because I would see loads of clicks and no show of appreciation at all. I treat people the way they treat Me always. You show Me that you appreciate Me and I will continue to show MY appreciation by writing, adding photos, and do all sorts of fun things along with educating your minds.
It’s never a one way street. It has to be both ways always….
Goddess Bella Donna